Comments on: Bad Mama http://burningprairie.com/posts/bad-mama/ Cleaning up my house, one mess at a time. Mon, 26 Apr 2010 22:05:45 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.2 By: Christina http://burningprairie.com/posts/bad-mama/#comment-17 Christina Tue, 15 Jan 2008 01:51:03 +0000 http://burningprairie.com/?p=17#comment-17 Better living through chemistry, Pido. Drugs and booze and seconds of both. (c; Better living through chemistry, Pido.

Drugs and booze and seconds of both. (c;

]]> By: pidomon http://burningprairie.com/posts/bad-mama/#comment-16 pidomon Mon, 14 Jan 2008 23:13:56 +0000 http://burningprairie.com/?p=17#comment-16 I just dont know how all of you parents (especially mine as I was the classic brat-only boy and youngest which I decided early on granted me special privileges) do it I just dont know how all of you parents (especially mine as I was the classic brat-only boy and youngest which I decided early on granted me special privileges) do it

]]> By: Christina http://burningprairie.com/posts/bad-mama/#comment-14 Christina Sun, 13 Jan 2008 17:06:03 +0000 http://burningprairie.com/?p=17#comment-14 Congratulations! Having your children tell you that they hate you means you are doing something right. When my kids say that I'm not being fair, or I'm being mean, or they hate me or they'll never love me ever again, I pat myself on the back for a Job Well Done. When they threaten to run-away, I do much, much more of that--whatever that was. Seriously, just for a second,; it may hurt for a nano-second, but they don't really mean it. They just don't have the verbal skills to articulate what they really think/feel about the perceived unfairness of whatever it was you did. You get to play with manila envelopes, why can't he? HE wants your attention, why are you giving it to Pumpkin? (The whole want/need thing is very fuzzy.) Even The Girl, at 16, is still a child and is unable to really verbalize what she wants/needs from us/feels. So, really, what they are saying is "I'm angry with you and I can't tell you why so I'm going to lash out and hurt you back." They're just frustrated by what you've done and by what they feel and the inability to communicate that. IME, anyway. Congratulations! Having your children tell you that they hate you means you are doing something right.

When my kids say that I’m not being fair, or I’m being mean, or they hate me or they’ll never love me ever again, I pat myself on the back for a Job Well Done.

When they threaten to run-away, I do much, much more of that–whatever that was.

Seriously, just for a second,; it may hurt for a nano-second, but they don’t really mean it. They just don’t have the verbal skills to articulate what they really think/feel about the perceived unfairness of whatever it was you did. You get to play with manila envelopes, why can’t he? HE wants your attention, why are you giving it to Pumpkin? (The whole want/need thing is very fuzzy.) Even The Girl, at 16, is still a child and is unable to really verbalize what she wants/needs from us/feels. So, really, what they are saying is “I’m angry with you and I can’t tell you why so I’m going to lash out and hurt you back.” They’re just frustrated by what you’ve done and by what they feel and the inability to communicate that. IME, anyway.

]]> By: Burning Prairie http://burningprairie.com/posts/bad-mama/#comment-13 Burning Prairie Sun, 13 Jan 2008 16:58:34 +0000 http://burningprairie.com/?p=17#comment-13 Don't worry about that, Kari, I didn't take his little words to heart and I bet your mom didn't either. If he ever says that to me one day when he's a grown-up, then I'll be worried. Don’t worry about that, Kari, I didn’t take his little words to heart and I bet your mom didn’t either. If he ever says that to me one day when he’s a grown-up, then I’ll be worried.

]]> By: Kari http://burningprairie.com/posts/bad-mama/#comment-12 Kari Sun, 13 Jan 2008 15:51:48 +0000 http://burningprairie.com/?p=17#comment-12 Kids are so funny like that. I wish I would've realized the weight of my words when I was growing up. I still feel bad to this day for things I didn't even realize I was saying. Kids are so funny like that. I wish I would’ve realized the weight of my words when I was growing up. I still feel bad to this day for things I didn’t even realize I was saying.

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