Comments on: Pretty Every Day http://burningprairie.com/posts/pretty-every-day/ Cleaning up my house, one mess at a time. Fri, 21 Nov 2008 11:19:17 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.2 By: frau sally benz http://burningprairie.com/posts/pretty-every-day/#comment-146 frau sally benz Mon, 28 Jul 2008 17:44:18 +0000 http://burningprairie.com/posts/pretty-every-day/#comment-146 This is an incredible post. My mother never told me (or my sisters for that matter) that I was pretty OR smart. So I definitely lack that "arrogant self-confidence" as well. I tell my baby cousins and nephew that they're beautiful every time I see them and whenever they do something particularly smart or clever, I tell them so. This is an incredible post. My mother never told me (or my sisters for that matter) that I was pretty OR smart. So I definitely lack that “arrogant self-confidence” as well. I tell my baby cousins and nephew that they’re beautiful every time I see them and whenever they do something particularly smart or clever, I tell them so.

]]> By: Snark Scribe http://burningprairie.com/posts/pretty-every-day/#comment-141 Snark Scribe Thu, 24 Jul 2008 04:00:19 +0000 http://burningprairie.com/posts/pretty-every-day/#comment-141 My mother never told me I was pretty, but she told me I was smart. You sound like a great mom. My mother never told me I was pretty, but she told me I was smart.

You sound like a great mom.

]]> By: Dalia http://burningprairie.com/posts/pretty-every-day/#comment-140 Dalia Wed, 23 Jul 2008 23:29:41 +0000 http://burningprairie.com/posts/pretty-every-day/#comment-140 My Mom was big into Woman's Lib...back in the early 70's she would have NOW meetings at our house. She NEVER told me I was pretty because she nerver wanted me to rely on my looks...later on I had the confidence of a pea (don't ask me why I referenced a pea?). When I was in the 8th grade she forced me to drop out of the "prettiest girl" catagory for the yearbook. It wasn't until I was married that I learned that I was pretty. I can see her point but she took it too far. I have 2 boys (now 25 & 23) and always told them how intelligent and handsome they were...you really do need confidence in both. My Mom was big into Woman’s Lib…back in the early 70’s she would have NOW meetings at our house. She NEVER told me I was pretty because she nerver wanted me to rely on my looks…later on I had the confidence of a pea (don’t ask me why I referenced a pea?). When I was in the 8th grade she forced me to drop out of the “prettiest girl” catagory for the yearbook. It wasn’t until I was married that I learned that I was pretty. I can see her point but she took it too far. I have 2 boys (now 25 & 23) and always told them how intelligent and handsome they were…you really do need confidence in both.

]]> By: watercat http://burningprairie.com/posts/pretty-every-day/#comment-107 watercat Sat, 21 Jun 2008 05:42:40 +0000 http://burningprairie.com/posts/pretty-every-day/#comment-107 That was an awesomely good post!!! That was an awesomely good post!!!

]]> By: sunnyhello http://burningprairie.com/posts/pretty-every-day/#comment-104 sunnyhello Thu, 19 Jun 2008 00:53:29 +0000 http://burningprairie.com/posts/pretty-every-day/#comment-104 Thank you so much for this! Every time I hear a smart, strong mother praise her daughter it does something to heal the part of me that had to scar over from craving praise so badly. (My own parents were of the "don't let her get the Bighead" variety.) But I'll tell you -- I confronted my mother about this once. Why? Why did she tell me so often when I was young that I wasn't "born under a beauty star?" And my mother, with huge tears in her eyes, said, You looked so much like me and I never could believe I could be that beautiful. It was so sad and so honest all we could do was hug each other. Thank you so much for breaking the cycle. Thank you so much for this! Every time I hear a smart, strong mother praise her daughter it does something to heal the part of me that had to scar over from craving praise so badly. (My own parents were of the “don’t let her get the Bighead” variety.)

But I’ll tell you — I confronted my mother about this once. Why? Why did she tell me so often when I was young that I wasn’t “born under a beauty star?” And my mother, with huge tears in her eyes, said, You looked so much like me and I never could believe I could be that beautiful. It was so sad and so honest all we could do was hug each other.

Thank you so much for breaking the cycle.

]]> By: Katie http://burningprairie.com/posts/pretty-every-day/#comment-103 Katie Wed, 18 Jun 2008 20:28:50 +0000 http://burningprairie.com/posts/pretty-every-day/#comment-103 Wow, what a beautiful post. Your kids are lucky to have such a fantastic mom! Wow, what a beautiful post. Your kids are lucky to have such a fantastic mom!

]]> By: SKM http://burningprairie.com/posts/pretty-every-day/#comment-102 SKM Wed, 18 Jun 2008 17:56:05 +0000 http://burningprairie.com/posts/pretty-every-day/#comment-102 Wow, this is a beautiful piece. And this:"As a direct result of my upbringing, I lack much of the arrogant self-confidence that this world requires" could be in Latin on my personal crest, it describes me so well. But I had never put into words so well for myself. Thanks! Wow, this is a beautiful piece. And this:”As a direct result of my upbringing, I lack much of the arrogant self-confidence that this world requires” could be in Latin on my personal crest, it describes me so well. But I had never put into words so well for myself. Thanks!

]]> By: pidomon http://burningprairie.com/posts/pretty-every-day/#comment-101 pidomon Wed, 18 Jun 2008 01:52:50 +0000 http://burningprairie.com/posts/pretty-every-day/#comment-101 I so wish you could have met my Mom. You two would have gotten along so well. I knew I was loved and accepted every day of my life because she made sure I knew it. Thursday will be 4 years since she's been gone but she impacts my life every single day. As you will your two wonderful children. I so wish you could have met my Mom. You two would have gotten along so well.

I knew I was loved and accepted every day of my life because she made sure I knew it.

Thursday will be 4 years since she’s been gone but she impacts my life every single day.

As you will your two wonderful children.

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